As some of you know, I am moving to Dallas, Texas next month. While I am currently pretty excited, I could also be really scared and uncomfortable to leave my safe home in the Netherlands and start a new adventure. So why aren’t I?
Why choose the unknown?!
I have talked about this subject with many friends and family, of course. And while many of them reacted very positive and called this a new adventure for us, some were also quite wary, or didn’t understand why we would choose to turn our comfortable life around for something unknown.
And of course, with a big life change like this one, you can expect the usual struggles. For example, I already know that there are going to be moments where I really miss my friends and family, get really annoyed with American things I probably will never understand, or just feel a plain regret for even moving there in the first place.
But right now, my main mindset about these moments is: they too shall pass. And life isn’t supposed to be comfortable a 100% of the time.
It makes us grow
Because stepping out of our comfort zone, taking chances, and sometimes even being blatantly unhappy makes us grow. These are probably the moments that will make me say ‘I’m so glad we did this’ in the future. Life is supposed to be hard sometimes. And this is no reason to refrain from making changes, or live the life that excites you.
Sometimes I feel like we are used to avoiding pain and discomfort, because we are so used to having the illusion of control. For example, I could stay in the Netherland because I am not willing to take the risk of being unhappy with my decision of moving abroad. But who says life here will stay safe and comfortable? I can become perfectly miserable at home as well! And even then: sometimes life is sitting in your sadness, crying it out, without trying to ‘fix’ it as quickly as possible.
I get it: it doesn’t feel nice. But life isn’t supposed to feel nice all the time. Life sometimes is supposed to feel really, really, shitty. And allowing it to feel that way.
Certain can be shit too
The idea of knowing what we have, but being uncertain about what we could gain is completely false. Or at least – only the second part is true. We indeed don’t know what we could gain by taking chances, but the bright side is: you will know after you try. However, we don’t what we have if we stay the same. Because we can stay the same, but life simply doesn’t.
The reasons you are so happy and comfortable with your current life can change in a heartbeat. What if that colleague you are so close with finds another job? What if your dream home has underlying flaws? I don’t want to scare you, but shit happens all the time in your life too. The main point of your happiness is how you deal with the highs and lows of life itself.
And small reminder: they can be dealt with literally in any place, anywhere, at any time.
2 thoughts on “Life is NOT supposed to be comfortable”
The heart comes alive when it both witnesses a sad thing or a happy thing. When it is
going through hardships or is experiencing relief. The heart does this to help things moving
forward. A blade of grass grows whether the season is harsh or if it is peaceful. Whether
in a meadow or even in a concrete parking lot. It does it as life needs to grow and progress.
Even if the blade of grass died, it still returns its minerals to the Earth for things to continue.
There is always a net gain. Things existed and keep existing. That’s the point. To continue life because it is worth it. You chose to go to America because you saw a greater net gain going than staying. A greater potential for life. To connect to that source of life. (Haha I have no idea what I’m saying, but I hope you enjoyed the comment anyway.)
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Haha I did! And there is so much truth in it. Thank you!
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